Alexandrian Nights

Friday, November 11, 2005

Vengeance

During the past days a lot of newspapers mentioned the story of the Moroccan woman who killed her Egyptian exboyfriend with assistance from her current lover ,the woman(35 years old) working as a casino hostess or something like that in a famous 5+ stars hotel in Katamyea ,Cairo. She was in love with the prey for almost five years ,he was eight years younger than her and was working as a waiter in the same hotel,they had a deep relationship which resulted in her pregnancy more than once ,she says that every time this happened he convinced her to get rid off the baby till they settle all their future marriage plans ,the last time this happened she felt that he started to neglect her ,ignore her calls and so on. And she came to the realization that he's not thinking about marrying her anymore after she heard the rumors that he got engaged to one of his relatives ,she confronted him and to her astonishment he didn't deny it ,he also started to threaten her with exposing their relationship details ,worse than that is his clear demand of money in return of his silence.

Things got developed ,she pretended to go along with his demands ,and on the same time she started getting closer to a young man working in the same hotel as a chef ,the couple got attached quickly ,and she told him about all her troubles with her ex ,slowly he became influenced and she started putting her revenge's plan ,she told her new lover that they both will flow away after finishing their plan to Spain and will open a Moroccan Restaurant there ,together they pretended to befriending her ex and trying to convince him that all that happened in the past is forgotten now ,one day they accompanied him to a hangout and while driving the car in some remote area she stabbed him and her friend completed the mission by adding more lethal stabs to the man ,they took the body to another desert area and put the flames to it and returned to work the next day pretending that there's nothing happened ,they were still preparing to travel to Spain as the last part of their plan when they both got arrested.

The above details is taken from the investigations papers and the couple's confessions ,I am not here to judge their innosence or not and I am not telling this as a murders news or something as this kind of crimes is not new and happens frequently in Egypt ,what attracted me to this tale is the woman's intention ,patience and commitment to her plan ,I remembered an old belief that said that women is hard to forgive someone who hurt them ,from my personal experience I believe so ,the woman cannot forget or forgive easily ,even for something simple in the men's viewpoint like marriage's anniversary or her birthday ,woman can not forgive something like that ,also I guess that women's preferring for revenge is higher than men ,just look for most of the relationships between young couples anywhere in the world and you will see who's more intent on revenging for the offense they receive from the other party ,but that leaves a lot of questions ,is woman more violent than the man when it comes to her personal emotions or betrayal? ,can women really forgive or -more important-forget?

10 Comments:

  • At 5:25 PM, Blogger change destiny said…

    I guess you are right . " I will forgive but i will not forget and i hope you know you've lost my respect " is a known policy females use .
    But , it's sort of protective . When somebody hurts you . You just wanna remember never to put yourself in the same position with that person again .
    I do forgive but i rarely forget . Simply becuse at the rare times i did , history repeated itself .
    And it's not about being emotional because i really am not at all emotional . It's more about logic .

     
  • At 12:32 AM, Blogger Me said…

    "can women really forgive or -more important-forget?"

    I think forgiving leads to forgetting...if a woman forgives... eventually she forgets...

     
  • At 3:03 PM, Blogger LouLou said…

    Nightlegend,

    Sorry but I can't agree with you about women being more prone to vengeance.

    I read stories in newspapers all the time about men committing crimes of vengeance. I think the reason that a crime tends to get more limelight when the perpetrator is a woman is that women are not expected to be violent so when they commit murder everyone is shocked because it's something unusual.

    If you look at homicide & violent crime statistics worldwide men are still very much in the lead.

     
  • At 7:09 AM, Blogger Charismatic Soul said…

    What a horrible story ya night :(
    some ppl hold grudges for years but can never have the guts to kill, and some can execute their anger in horrific ways such as killing, can never understand that.

    i agree that women are hard to forget, that is, if they forget at all. I personally never forget, i might forgive if the person was really regretful, but then there are things that you can NEVER forget, and thank god i havent experienced any thing of that sort.

    but i think most humans are like that, but there are a few who are very kind, and dont hold a grudge, those i assume are very innocent and are prone to hurt often.

    i agree with Lou in what she said.
    women are way behind men in commiting vengeance crimes although women in count, are more than double the count of men.

     
  • At 4:11 AM, Blogger Nightlegend said…

    change destiny:Thanks alot for your viewpoint ,and by the way you may be more emotional than you think!

    me:a woman may forget or may think that she has forgotten ,but it's still deep inside her mind & heart.

    loulou:when I talked about revenge I didn't mean the revenge that's associated with blood ,I meant the revenge that every female may plan for when she's hurt by someone.

    charismatic soul:(i agree that women are hard to forget, that is, if they forget at all. I personally never forget,)

    Thanks for your comment ,and very natural female's behaviour.

     
  • At 4:34 PM, Blogger Sharks said…

    Plain Simple...I don't think so!...

     
  • At 2:37 AM, Blogger LouLou said…

    Nightlegend,

    "I meant the revenge that every female may plan for when she's hurt by someone."

    I don't think it's true that every female who was ever hurt by someone sits around & plans vengeance. Then the world will be a jungle.

    Most normal females don't think like that. If hurt by someone we love we suffer for a while & then we get over it. We may not forgive this person in the sense that we will never trust them or love them again but to actually sit & plan revenge on them?You know I've never known a girl who sat around planning revenge on her ex. I see that stuff in movies only. Half the girls I saw not only forgave the guy but actually wanted him back & were planning for that & we had to convince them no this guy is not trustworthy don't go back to him!Infact I sometimes think girls are too forgiving to the point of being stupid.

     
  • At 8:42 AM, Blogger Nightlegend said…

    sharks:thanks for your visit and waiting for more explaination.

    loulou:I didn't talk about only planning a small revenge for her EX ,I meant small revenge for her current one also!
    Maybe that you & me are talking about two different planets!

     
  • At 10:27 PM, Blogger Laura(southernxyl) said…

    Congreve knew it, in 1697:

    "Heav'n has no rage like love to hatred turn'd
    Nor Hell a fury, like a woman scorn'd."

     
  • At 5:38 PM, Blogger Cliche~ said…

    To an extent I do agree with this claim. I mean disregarding violence, revenge could have so many forms such as: giving the cold shoulder, refusing to be friends with an ex...etc.

    And if women were to be in that sense more vengeful than men, I would attribute it to the fact that when a couple come out of a relationship, it is usually the woman who feels more used. We find it hard to keep the balance between indulging in relationships body and soul, and being completely detached. If a relationship is inspiring, we give it our all, and then eventually feel used. And if it becomes more stagnant and stable with day to day routine, it becomes uninspiring, and we find ourselves cold and detached from the whole thing.

    While male vengeance is completely different, and it seems to me that its primarily driven by territorial ego. The idea of I cannot lose a battle or a challenge (sounds extremely biased, unfair generalised comment i know!!! )But I am not saying that men are carinvorous creatures with no emotional attachement, on the contrary. However its not usually emotions that drive them to seek revenge IF they do.

     

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